I share, you share, why share?
I do schmaltz too often on this blog. Too often I’m inclined to warm, giddy feelings and like a child at a fair for the very first time I jump up and down excitedly screaming, ‘Look, look!’. I want to share. I think it explains too, why I enjoy entertaining, it’s heartwarming to have people share in what’s mine, albeit for a short while . I’m not altogether a people’s person, I’m clumsy in most social settings. I’d dearly like to be quiet and unobtrusive and smile at the world in passing but nothing makes my heart flutter like opening...
Read More“Life imitates art far more than art imitates life.” Oscar Wilde
We all go through a phase where every second song on the radio seems to be sung especially for us. ‘It’s like it was written for me,’ we’ve cooed, while piously singing along, creating prophets out of boybands and holy grail out of CD sleeves. The last time I found myself a disciple of this religious order I was eighteen. Fresh out of high school, bright-eyed, bushy-tailed and very much a babe in the woods; I was tacitly informed by the best-friend-of-the-day that the he-of-the-day had been haranguing the-girl-about-town for some attention. ‘C-r-a-ck,’...
Read MoreNo (wo)man is an island
I think there’s some merit in being an island. An ignoble suggestion perhaps; and perhaps too essentially impossible. But there is some merit in trying at least. Once we become vulnerable to others, once our happiness, states of mind and levels of bewildermint are hinged on other people, that’s when there’s a fuzziness between where self ends and others begin. And most of the time, I’d say it’s a priveledged position but sometimes it’s a scary place. We don’t choose to make ourselves vulnerable to family, we’re born in these circles and you...
Read MoreFilling the gaps of time with happiness
“Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length.” Robert Frost “Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves.” Helen Keller Happiness is no certainty. There are people who wait at life’s station expectantly only to one day learn that happiness takes another route. And yet simple forms of happiness do exist. Bringing joy to others must rate as one of the easiest ways to be...
Read MoreLIFE be not proud.
DEATH be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not so, For, those, whom thou think’st, thou dost overthrow, Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill me. John Donne All roads lead to Johannesburg. Rome had its day and the other half have their helipads. It’s Johannesburg that’s captured the direction of the physically mobile; the gridlocked will bear testimony. Roads from Johannesburg are altogether another matter, why they exist is the bane of all philosophy. The road to Vereeniging, for instance, stretches interminably long....
Read MoreOn being a spoke in the third wheel – A clarification
> This was not meant to be an exercise in self pity, nor even a window into any piteous state I may be in. But I’ve received some concerned feedback so I’d best clarify what my thinking was. And because I’m lazy, it is a Saturday night after all; I’m copy-pasting my elucidation to Kimya: shafinaaz ur spoke in the wheel post is sad u ok? Me you’re the second person to ask me that i must clarify it’s meant to be a metaphor for growing up, independance, standing on two feet without a supporting wheel…. shafinaaz aah! eureka ...
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